One word 2018: Integrity

Welcome to 2018!  I love fresh starts and find myself naturally settling into the rhythms of new weeks, months and years.

As usually happens my new “word” starting nudging its way in back in November. So integrity rode shotgun alongside grace / action as I worked my way through the end of the year.

Last year I was in my second year of therapy and one thing we worked on was connecting to my values in order to move forward with changes I was trying to make in my life (health, job, etc). I realised over time that the key ingredient was integrity and that I (surprisingly) lacked this trait.

It can be confronting to realise what is standing in your way, but I choose to see things for how they really are and could not deny that I lacked follow through on things that I know I wanted or needed, but that were scary or uncomfortable.

I am using Brene Brown’s definition of integrity from her book Rising Strong:  “integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast or easy; choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.”

When I was focusing on reconnecting to my values at the end of 2017 I was able to re-commit to exercise for the first time in ages (most weeks I stuck to the 3 classes I wanted to attend) and improved my eating. Losing the first 10 pounds finally after “wanting to lose the weight I had gained in 2016-2017” was the encouragement I needed to really start pushing through that discomfort that comes up when routines are new, skills are weak, and stakes feel high.

One word 2018 Inner Compass Designs

 

So here I am in January after a year mostly spent on laying foundations and getting strong in myself. I am ready to get clear on what I want and need and then follow through.

I have a list of goals / plans in various areas of life (health, creative, business, personal…) whereas I usually have more general aims and then make it up as I go along through the year.

While it can seem like “too much” I feel comfortable making these plans because I have run them through the filter of my values and what I TRULY want to do. Some of the goals have been hanging over my head for ages (hello Photoshop and InDesign – I AM going to learn how to use you!) and others are about using what I have (reading books I already own rather than accumulating more) or regaining lost ground (getting back to being able to run 10km and fit into my smaller clothes instead of continuing to buy “just a few” bigger items).

I have spent a lot of time figuring this out and my support words are:

curiosity – focus on progress and process rather than product; play and experiment; beginner’s mind. The point is to take all the pressure off and just dive in with things that have intimidated me in the past.

resilience – fail forward (don’t see failure as an end result, but rather a step in the journey) and have compassion for myself, celebrate steps forward no matter how small

courage – push through discomfort; don’t abandon plans or make excuse on the hard days

I will share more in my next post about the things I have created to keep my word close to me and help me along including a mandala, a new vision canvas and a special book inspired by a film I saw.

Have you chosen a word for 2018?

Love and light,

Deb xx

 

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